I love feminism but can someone explain why girls get so offended by the dress code? The “I’m wearing these shorts because I’m hot” argument makes no sense. Guys literally go to school wearing jeans in 100 degree weather. Girls wear MUCH less clothing than men, and get offended because they can’t wear less? Maybe I’m looking at this wrong, my ask box is open if you’d like to give me a different perspective but I don’t get it.
#i want to support feminism, #but some stuff doesn’t make sense to me, #so it makes it hard to support everything, #but heck yeah, #female rights, #all the way, #just don’t see how a dress code violates that.
There is no reason to so heavily police girls’ clothing and specifically target them in school. The entire point of attending class is to get an education - Many excessive dress codes are preventing girls from getting that, all while sending them harmful messages about their bodies.
Arguments in favor of a dress code often use terms like “distraction,” “inappropriate” and “modesty.” All of these are ways of sexualizing girls’ bodies and claiming that girls’ bodies are inherently offensive. Because yes - Many dress codes target girls. It isn’t that girls’ clothing coincidentally happens to be more offensive or inappropriate for school - Girls’ clothing repeatedly comes under fire while boys are often free to wear the exact same thing, or worse.
When you take a girl out of class because her clothing is distracting boys, you are telling the students several things:
- Her education is less important than a boy’s education. It is perfectly acceptable to remove her from a classroom and stop her from learning, yet it is simultaneously unacceptable for a boy to be even slightly inattentive to the lesson going on. If he isn’t learning, the school thinks that the proper solution is to ensure that she isn’t learning instead.
- She is responsible for how boys behave. It is her fault that another person is failing to give their full attention to schoolwork. Even if she is passively sitting by herself and has not engaged any other students, her simple presence is blamed for any poor behavior that another student is exhibiting. (By extension: The boy is learning that he isn’t responsible for his own behavior and education. It’s not his fault if he spends all class staring at a girl. She’s the one who’s guilty, not him. He gets off scot-free and learns that it’s not only okay to objectify women, but it’s outright expected of him.)
- Bodies are inherently sexual. Bodies are inherently offensive. Even something as neutral as a girl’s shoulder is a dirty sight that needs to be hidden from view at all times. A girl may have no intentions of being sexy, she may not be acting in a sexual manner, she may not be engaged in sex of any kind, but if another person is somehow attracted to her visible body parts - That means her body is far too sexual and needs to be hidden away. It is her body that’s the problem, not the way that others are treating it. (**Remember that a secondary sex characteristic is not the same thing as a sex organ. A cis girl’s cleavage is more closely related to a cis boy’s Adam’s apple than to his penis. Wearing a tight shirt is not the same thing as flipping your dick out, so let’s not even get into that discussion.)
This is not acceptable. It’s insulting & harmful to everyone involved, both girls and boys.
And I hate to even get into the weather. You know that people dress for the weather. I don’t understand how that could possibly be debated. People wear clothing suitable for their needs, that makes them comfortable depending on the current temperature and weather - So you know that some girls wear pants during the summer, right? Lots of women like pants too. But would you use that argument as a way to prove that guys shouldn’t be allowed to wear shorts? Probably not: Just because some people choose to dress in a certain style does not mean that clothing would always be appropriate for everyone else. Boys wearing shorts in the snow wouldn’t mean that everyone should inherently lose the right to wear extra layers when they are cold. So when it’s warm out, I see no reason why all students should risk getting heat exhaustion just because some are comfortable wearing pants.
If you honestly don’t understand why women are upset when their bodily autonomy is restricted, their access to education decreases, their health is endangered, they are sexualized and they’re told that their bodies are inherently offensive - I can’t help you. These are basic issues in feminism.
If you want to read up on this issue more, here are some good starts:
- Dress Codes or How Schools Skirt Around Sexism and Homophobia
- Does slut-shaming start with school dress codes?
- My daughter was dress coded for wearing shorts
- The Problem with Dress Codes
- Is Your Dress Code Sexist?
- Feminist Dress Code
- Sexes not treated equally with Utah school dress codes
*Note that both my post here and these linked articles do not state that dress codes should be 100% eliminated. Especially in environments that cater to minors, it’s important to maintain safe and healthy communities where students can flourish. However, as many dress codes currently exist, they are excessively restricting girls’ rights and teaching the students harmful lessons about their bodies. Dress codes need to be edited and fixed before they can be part of a productive school policy.
When you are 13 years old,
the heat will be turned up too high
and the stars will not be in your favor.
You will hide behind a bookcase
with your family and everything left behind.
You will pour an ocean into a diary.
When they find you, you will be nothing
but a spark above a burning bush,
still, tell them
Despite everything, I really believe people are good at heart.
When you are 14,
a voice will call you to greatness.
When the doubters call you crazy, do not listen.
They don’t know the sound
of their own God’s whisper. Use your armor,
use your sword, use your two good hands.
Do not let their doubting
drown out the sound of your own heartbeat.
You are the Maid of Untamed Patriotism.
Born to lead armies into victory and unite a nation
like a broken heart.
When you are 15, you will be punished
for learning too proudly. A man
will climb onto your school bus and insist
your sisters name you enemy.
When you do not hide,
he will point his gun at your temple
and fire three times. Three years later,
in an ocean of words, with no apologies,
you will stand before the leaders of the world
and tell them your country is burning.
When you are 16 years old,
you will invent science fiction.
The story of a man named Frankenstein
and his creation. Soon after you will learn
that little girls with big ideas are more terrifying
than monsters, but don’t worry.
You will be remembered long after
they have put down their torches.
When you are 17 years old,
you will strike out Babe Ruth and Lou Gehrig
one right after the other.
Men will be afraid of the lightening
in your fingertips. A few days later
you will be fired from the major leagues
because “Girls are too delicate to play baseball”
You will turn 18 with a baby on your back
leading Lewis and Clark
across North America.
You will turn 18
and become queen of the Nile.
You will turn 18
and bring justice to journalism.
You are now 18, standing on the precipice,
trembling before your own greatness.
This is your call to leap.
There will always being those
who say you are too young and delicate
to make anything happen for yourself.
They don’t see the part of you that smolders.
Don’t let their doubting drown out the sound
of your own heartbeat.
You are the first drop of a hurricane.
Your bravery builds beyond you. You are needed
by all the little girls still living in secret,
writing oceans made of monsters and
throwing like lightening.
You don’t need to grow up to find greatness.
You are stronger than the world has ever believed you to be.
The world laid out before you to set on fire.
All you have to do