Female warriors have the smoothest, safest shoulders in the world. Nary a scratch to be found there!
Airport news shop: men’s magazines are “general interest,” women’s are “women’s fashion.”
“sexism against men” is in no way, shape, or form comparable to misogyny, and carving out a day to celebrate women in a society that constantly objectifies and devalues them is not sexist.
Seth MacFarlane made a whole bunch of sexist, reductive jokes at the Oscars last night. It’s frustrating enough to know that 77 percent of Academy voters are male. Or to watch 30 men and 9 women collect awards last night. But MacFarlane’s boob song, the needless sexualization of a little girl, and the relentless commentary about how women look reinforced, over and over, that women somehow don’t belong. They matter only insofar as they are beautiful or naked, or preferably both. This wasn’t an awards ceremony so much as a black-tie celebration of the straight white male gaze.
MacFarlane’s opening musical number, “We Saw Your Boobs,” might as well have been a siren blaring, “This isn’t for you.” Come on, everyone likes boobs, right? No. The answer is no. They’re not something I hate, and heck, I have a pair to call my own, and yet my takeaway from The Accused was not “Finally, I’ve seen Jodie Foster’s breasts.” My lasting memory of Boys Don’t Cry is not “Hey, free breasts!” At least there was that super timely and relevant reference to Kate Winslet’s many nude scenes.
Jeez, the song was a joke! Can’t you take a joke? Yes, I can take a joke. I can take a bunch! A thousand, 10,000, maybe even more! But after 30 or so years, this stuff doesn’t feel like joking. It’s dehumanizing and humiliating, and as if every single one of those jokes is an ostensibly gentler way of saying, “I don’t think you belong here.” All those little instances add up, grain of sand by grain of sand until I’m stranded in a desert of every “tits or GTFO” joke I’ve ever tried to ignore.
Then came the joke about actresses getting the flu to lose weight. “It paid off,” MacFarlane said. “Looking good.” Well, thank God, because what matters to all women is that we look good for Seth MacFarlane. How many women did he introduce over the course of the night by mentioning how they looked: “Please welcome the lovely ___ ,” “the beautiful ______”? How many men?
Uh, those are compliments! Now he can’t even give women compliments? Compliment away, friends. Let’s compliment the shit out of each other. But let’s be really cognizant of what we compliment each other on, and what that says about what we expect from each other, and what we consider valuable and worth mentioning. It doesn’t matter what Salma Hayek says, because she’s so pretty!
You just don’t like Seth MacFarlane’s sense of humor. What did you expect? Actually, I do like Seth MacFarlane’s sense of humor. (Sometimes. No one likes everything all the time!) I’ve been a loyal Family Guy viewer for almost fifteen years. I’ve been to — and adored — Family Guy: Live. If MacFarlane had sung “Shipoopi” all night, I’d be writing a really different story right now. Instead, there were jokes about how Rex Reed would probably call Adele fat — because that’s what’s important about her — and how someday Quvenzhané Wallis will be old enough to date George Clooney — because that’s what’s important about her — and how sometimes, gasp, a woman might have body hair — because that’s what’s important about them. Women are nags, and Jews run Hollywood! Thank you, Seth MacFarlane, for this cutting-edge humor. Like Mark Wahlberg said, the party’s at Jack Nicholson’s house. You remember, that place where Roman Polanski drugged and raped a 13-year-old girl. Ha-ha, ha-ha, ha.
I dream of someday watching women win all the non-performance categories, of women making as many films as men do, of women and men being nominated for a comparable number of awards. There are a lot of reasons why that day is far, far in the future. But I’ll tell you what’s not helping: the biggest night in film being dedicated to alienating, excluding, and debasing women. Actual gender equality is a ways away, but I’d settle for one four-hour ceremony where women aren’t being actively degraded.
—-Why Seth MacFarlane’s misogyny matters
fuck yeah anti misogyn-
Um yes, you just took John Green’s words completely out of context. Context is important, people.
Please explain to me in what context it’s acceptable to refer to human beings as “resources.” I’m not a resource, I’m a PERSON, and it’s dehumanizing to say otherwise.
so here’s a link to the video and since a ton of the people who have reblogged this post keep talking about context, let’s actually put the comment into context.
within the context of the video, the comment is STILL offensive. do you know why? BECAUSE THE VIDEO ITSELF IS OFFENSIVE. the video consists of this white man telling some 15 year old girl to be happy bc she’s not “malnourished” or “has plastic bags in her breasts” meanwhile having no analysis of eating disorders or plastic surgery or body dysmorphia or unrealistic ideals of beauty imposed on women that btw are neither the fault of this 15 year old girl nor of the “malnourished plastic bags in breasts women”.
so the entire video is about shaming certain types of women john green thinks are shallow and vapid and stupid and awkward and blah blah blah “I’M A WHITE MAN AND AS SUCH GET TO DICTATE ACCEPTABLE STANDARDS OF BEING A WOMAN TO YOU UNDER THE GUISE OF ADVICE AND YOU’LL HAVE TO ACCEPT THIS BC I AM BETTER THAN THE OTHER 5 BILLION PEOPLE ALSO IMPOSING ACCEPTABLE STANDARDS OF BEING A WOMAN ON YOU” it’s all offensive at the end of the day. he doesn’t get to tell her that she should be “better” than women who have plastic surgery or are thin either naturally or out of choice or whatever, he doesn’t get to make the determination at all in any context ever.
and then to be like oh btw nerd guys are awesome albeit a little needy ummmm wow fuck you bc nerdy white guys are SOME OF THE WORST TYPES OF MEN OUT THERE. they are sexist and entitled and HORRIBLE to women. like do you guys remember that part of the social network where mark is constantly looking down on erica for going to BU and not harvard and finally she breaks up with him and is like “btw this isn’t bc you’re a nerd which you’ll think, it’s actually bc you’re an asshole” YEAH.
so in conclusion to all of you who want us to consider the context of john green’s comment: i did consider the context and turns out the context is horrible and john green is still a sexist piece of shit.
adding this to the list I’ve got going on this dude.
lol context is important
unless that context is inconveniently worse than the original statement itself.
Awesome protests erupted in my school today. Our student council planned a “fun” game for valentines day. They handed out paper hearts to every girl at the beginning of the day. Only the girls. If a girl speaks to a guy through the duration of the day, she has to give him her heart. Guys get five raffle tickets for every heart they collect. Girls cannot collect hearts, they only have one to give away, and guys do not have to give away anything. A gay male asked for a heart to give away to participate and was told no.
Some girls have taken this as an invitation to say things such as, quoted from twitter, “keeping the whores from talking today haha.” And boasting about “keeping their heart and not being a whore.” This has turned into an excuse to shame each other for talking to guys. And for what? A valentines game?
Rather than writing their names on the hearts and giving them away, many girls have written notes of protest on the paper hearts and are wearing them proudly as they associate with whoever they please and refuse to give the heart away.
Proud of some of the people in my school today.
it’s really hard to be a feminist and see all this misogynist bullshit everywhere posted by your friends a lot of the time and to want to explain to them that they are being sexist without making them hate you
Great ad campaign from the Maine Coalition Against Sexual Assault. More posters here.
A study by Swim et al had male and female students keep a diary of sexist encounters. They found that women experienced more every day prejudices and instances of discrimination, about one to two instances per week, “consisting of traditional gender role stereotypes and prejudice, demeaning and degrading comments and behaviors, and sexual objectification.” As a result, these incidents “affected women’s psychological well being by decreasing their comfort, increasing their feelings of anger and depression, and decreasing their state self-esteem.”
Men, on the other hand, experienced fewer sexist incidents. The sexist incidents that they did experience, moreover, were more general and less personal (“All men are pigs,” vs. “You were asking for it because of the way you dressed.”).
Negative attitudes against the male gender, therefore, are usually not directed towards individual men, but rather “men” in the sense of resenting a general culture of masculinity. In contrast, sexism against women is tangible and personal, and results in measurable psychological damage to the women who experience it.
^ This is important and why I don’t take instances of interpersonal “sexism” against men that seriously.
Reblogging because I love it when studies back up what we’ve been saying for years: prejudice against men isn’t as bad as it is for women. Period.
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